Mercy.

“Corporal” or “bodily” punishment is effective with children because it is painful.  There is also fearful anticipation associated with the instrument of punishment. In order of mildest to most severe, I would rank them: hand, wooden spoon, ruler, belt, tree branch/switch, the cricket-bat-style wooden paddle.  I feared my father’s belt—that was his most severe tool.  He feared his father’s razor strop, a heavy strap of leather more intimidating than any belt. That healthy fear created a healthy respect. 

I would argue the respectfulness of young men is in direct correlation to the use of appropriate discipline when deserved. That discipline should be predictable and consistent—rarely a surprise—and should come from a father who is otherwise tender and kind. Strong-willed boys will not grow into strong, self-disciplined men without the training of consistent discipline, sometimes including corporal punishment.  Girls need consistent discipline as well, though probably less corporal punishment.

Nevertheless, one of the most amazing things a tough disciplinarian can do is choose NOT to punish. A good parent should watch for that rare moment when circumstances and a child’s genuine remorse indicate the best thing to do is have a conversation that ends with MERCY rather than punishment.

When my dad set a hayfield on fire as a little boy, his father—after helping a dozen men put out the fire—sat his six-year-old down, talked a while, and explained why he was not punishing his terrified, regretful son.  Years later, Daddy had mercy on me several times.  And when private school suggested expelling my son, it was my turn to show MERCY.

“He has not dealt with us as our sins deserve, or repaid us according to our offenses…  As far as the East is from the West, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.  AS A FATHER HAS COMPASSION ON HIS CHILDREN, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear Him. For HE KNOWS OUR FRAME. HE IS MINDFUL THAT WE ARE BUT DUST” Psalm 103:10,12-14.

Dear God, thank You that You know our limits, You know we are “but dust.” Thank you for your mercy!  Help us understand Your mercy and use us to share it with others.

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