Promiscuity often goes hand-in-hand with having no respect for boundaries. And those who “sleep around” are also those who violate other boundaries. But what if a couple is exclusively dating only each other? Well, that is a better scenario than promiscuity. But the risk is that your hearts become deeply connected without commitments. It is easy to break up at the first obstacle—and that creates pain not only for you but for the children born by that time.
And there is another problem. People who are quick to bed have not had time to evaluate the other person. How do you know whether this guy is a hard worker or loves people or can set a goal and reach it? How do you know this girl is able to resolve conflicts? Will she help you grow in Christ? Sex opens your heart to the influence of the other person, creating a deep connection that will get you into trouble if that connection is with a person who has a lot of problems.
“While Israel was staying in the Acacia Grove, the people began to have sexual relations with the Moabite women. The women invited them to the sacrifices for their gods, and the people ate and bowed in worship to their gods. So Israel aligned itself with Baal of Peor, and the Lord’s anger burned against Israel” Numbers 25:1-3.
Do you see the progression?
First the men sleep with the Moabite women, then they begin to worship the Moabite idols.
Sex creates influence. Sex with bad people influences us in a bad direction.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for from it flow the springs of life” Proverbs 4:23.
God, help us follow you and understand that your rules exist for a reason—and they protect us and help us live the best life we can. Show us how to follow you. Fill us with a heart of faith, grace, and joy, not guilt, legalism, or shame.
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